"People never out-perform their self-image."
~ John C. Maxwell
This is so true. It's like a wall that we erect that we can't get past it. Look past what you think you are then you may be able to see yourself as God sees you. It is nothing like what you see. Our tendencies are to put ourselves down while building up others. Our self image is created from a very early age.
Do you know anyone who has been changed by a comment that someone made that broken their spirit and they live with that for the rest of their lives? I have seen so many times people being affected by a hurtful comment made by those who are suppose to love and protect them. At the time they don't see that the other person had their own issues. They take in the negative and decide it must be a part of who they are which will be part of every decision they make for the rest of their lives. Words can wound just like they can build up. Why do we focus on the negative words and ignore the kind comments?
The devil knows that if he can get us early in life then there may be a chance that we will remain stuck in our mess and won't be able to work for the Kingdom of God in any way.
If you are in this position right now I hope you will take some time this year to focus on your thoughts. Look into what you think and how it makes you feel. You deserve a good life. It does not matter what was said to you because God is more than those hateful words. He loves you right in this very moment. If you are thinking of all the bad things you have done because of the path you were set on by others, God can forgive that to. It will be difficult to love others if we don't love ourselves.
Be kind to yourself, you may be the only one to do so.